All compounded things in the world are changeable. They are not lasting. Work hard to gain your own liberation. Practice diligently.
These are Buddha’s last words and the first part reminds us that all compounded things are impermanent. If we keep this in mind we will not get attached to things, which in turn will reduce our suffering.
The second part, which is the most interesting, says we should work towards our own liberation. Here the word liberation means an end to our suffering. This means we have to look within, take responsibility for our own actions and do the hard work ourselves.
It does not say liberation can be found outside of us, we should blame karma for what is happening in our lives or we have to hand our liberation over to some guru.
I believe we need teachers to help us along the path, but ultimately, we have to decide ourselves what path suits us best and which parts of Buddhism we decide to follow. It doesn’t mean we have to take on other people’s culture or superstitions. We also must decide how much time we devote to that path. The ball is in our court and no one can end our suffering for us.
The final part says that we should practice diligently. It is of very little benefit to simply understand Buddha’s teaching intellectually. They have to be practiced with great effort.
We have to firstly understand the power of the three poisons – clinging desire, aversion/attachment and delusion. Then we need to ensure oou minds are not clouded by these poisons. That is our starting point and something we need to be aware of throughout this path.
We need to fully understand the four noble truths and implement them into our lives. This is a lifetimes work and not something to be taken lightly. The eightfold path, which is the fourth of the truths, is a something we need to constantly ensure we are following.
Meditation is an extremely important part of Buddhism and I would encourage you to learn and practice each day. Mindfulness is also important, even though, the word has been totally misused of late, the four foundations are important to understand and practice.
There are many things in our lives that can bring us suffering and Buddha pinpointed eight of them in the teaching called the eight worldly concerns. Again, it is important to ensure we are not being led astray by these concerns.
Compassion is important in all religions and Buddhism is no exception. But Buddhism does not just talk about that. In the four immeasurables, Buddha spoke about equanimity, kind-heartedness, compassion, and open-hearted joy. All of these help us breakdown the barriers we erect between different types of people.
One of the most difficult to understand but without doubt, one of the most important, is the concept of non-self. We spend so much of our time building our identities and so find it difficult to appreciate that there is no solid, permanent and independent self. I would encourage you to revisit this teaching regularly, so you can slowly understand its importance.
I wish you all the best on your Buddhist journey and hope that these fourteen teachings have helped you in some small way.
I will leave the last word to Buddha:
‘I say to you that these teachings of which I have direct knowledge and which I have made known to you — these you should thoroughly learn, cultivate, develop, and frequently practice, that the life of purity may be established and may long endure, for the welfare and happiness of the multitude, out of compassion for the world, for the benefit, wellbeing, and happiness of all beings.’
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The first
noble truth describes how life has suffering running through it and in the
second truth Buddha gave some of the reasons for this suffering. There is not
just one cause of our suffering, as there is not one cause of anything. Things
come into being through a series of causes and conditions, and that is the same
for our suffering. However, there are three main things that cause us emotional
and psychological suffering, namely, the three poisons. They are clinging
desire, anger and aversion and unawareness.
In the Dhammapada it states:
‘The one who protects his mind from clinging desire, anger and aversion and unawareness, is the one who enjoys real and lasting peace’.
Clinging Desire
Not all of
our desires cause us suffering; only the ones we cling to. We may have a desire
to help people, a desire to reduce our suffering or to improve ourselves. As
long as we are not clinging to these desires there is no problem.
So, desire
on its own isn’t the problem. The problem is our clinging and grasping at the
things we desire. We wrongly believe that material things and people, such as
family, friends and loved ones, can make us permanently and truly happy.
However, if we take the time to investigate, we will find that these desires
eventually lead us into a feeling of discontentment, sadness and loss. Why is
that? It is because we have grown attached to the people we love or the things
we own. Again, there is not a problem with loving the people close to us; the
suffering starts once we get attached to them, believe they will be with us
forever and their thoughts and feelings for us will never change. This simply
isn’t the case.
You can
test this theory out. Think of a time when someone not very close to you died.
How did you feel? I expect you expressed your condolences but didn’t have too
much sadness. Now think of a time when a member of your family, a friend or a
loved one died. How did you feel? I expect you were devastated and extremely
upset for a long time. So, what is the difference between these two deaths?
Attachment. You were not attached to the first person and so did not suffer a
lot when they died, but you were attached to the second person, and your
clinging attachment is what caused you so much suffering.
We get
attached to our belongings and believe they make us happy. We think we can buy
happiness. The problem with that is our desires are never ending. Once we have
something new, we start wanting something else. We never quite manage to buy
the happiness we are so desperately seeking because there is no happiness
inherent in material things. We just project happiness onto an object and then
cling and grasp at this imaginary happiness, and we eventually suffer once the
object is stolen or stops working.
There is
no problem in wanting things and trying to make our lives more comfortable; the
problem is clinging and grasping at these desires. So do not stop loving the
people close to you or stop wanting to improve your life believing Buddha told
us to do that—he didn’t.
Our
clinging desires lead us to act in certain ways, such as being proud, jealous
and protective, and this in turn leads to our discontentment. This is because
our clinging desires lead us into action, which in turn leads us into
discontentment. It is a vicious cycle. Buddha said:
‘From desire action follows; from action discontentment follows; desire, action and discontentment are like a wheel rotating endlessly’.
To break
this cycle, we have to see that clinging, grasping and getting attached to
people and material objects brings us suffering because things are compounded
and are subject to change. If we can truly embrace this point and apply it to
our daily lives, we will be able to reduce the suffering caused by this poison.
Buddha stated, ‘Human desires
are endless. It is like the thirst of a man who drinks saltwater: he gets no
satisfaction and his thirst is only increased.’ This is surely something we
should be reflecting on.
Anger
and Aversion – Aversion is the opposite to attachment and
anger leads to hatred, discrimination, aggression and a lack of compassion. None
of these are helpful. With desire we want to cling to objects, but with
aversion we do the exact opposite. We spend all our time and energy trying to
push the thing away we do not like. As with desire, we just need to let go, not
hold on to this aversion. Don’t engage with it, hold it or repress it – simply
acknowledge you have an aversion for it, understand that it is causing harm to
yourself and others and find a way of letting it go.
Buddha said this about anger:
‘This fury does so cloud the mind of man that he cannot discern this fearful inner danger’.
Some say that anger is
natural and should be expressed at all costs. This is because most people only
see two ways of dealing with anger, that is, express or repress. Both are
unhealthy. If you constantly express it, you will find that after some time it
will become a habit and you will react angrily all of the time. If you repress
it, you are just storing up trouble for the future. You may be able to keep it
down for some time, but eventually it will surface and may even come back more
violent and hurtful.
Anger is such a destructive
emotion because we engage with it and let it take control of us. So, the Buddha
had a different idea. He advised us to look at the anger and see where it comes
from. It is not to be dealt with but observed. If we do this, we will see that
it stems from our exaggerating the negative qualities of someone or projecting
negative qualities that are not actually there, on to someone or something.
Two of the best ways of
counteracting anger is patience and acceptance.
Patience—This
is something we should cultivate. The best advice is to try and walk away from
the situation that is making you angry. If you cannot do that, then you should
not react straight away, but should first try counting to ten and spend a
little time reflecting on the situation. This will give you the space to calm
down and see things more rationally. Of course, this is not a simple thing to
do when one is wrapped up in the moment, and this is where patience comes in.
The most hurtful things are said in the heat of the moment, so defuse that
moment with patience.
You
could try watching your breath for a moment, use your senses to engage with
what you can see, hear, smell, taste and touch or you could try reciting the
word patience over and over again. All of these will give you a chance to calm
down and build patience.
There is no evil like anger, and no courageousness like patience.
Acceptance—This
is accepting that people are the same as we are. Everyone is struggling to find
their way in life. We strive for happiness, and so does everyone else. If we
think in this way, a feeling of warmth, empathy and compassion will arise in
us. If we are empathic or compassionate towards others, it is harder to get
angry at them. This, again, takes time to master but is something we are all
capable of.
Unawareness
Unawareness
is a lack of understanding of the true nature of things, which leads us into
wrong views. Buddha stated:
‘Because of their unawareness, people are always thinking wrong thoughts and always losing the right viewpoint and, clinging to their egos, they take wrong actions. As a result, they become attached to a delusive existence’.
As
we are unaware of the true nature of the world, we start clinging to objects,
people and ourselves, which leads to wrong actions and causes us to grow
attached to our perception of reality.
Impermanence
is something we understand on an intellectual level, but it is not how we live
our lives. That is because we are unaware of the true implications of
impermanence.
Whatever is
born is impermanent and is bound to die.
Whatever is stored up is impermanent and is bound to run out.
Whatever comes together is impermanent and is bound to come apart.
Whatever is built is impermanent and is bound to collapse.
Whatever rises up is impermanent and is bound to fall down.
So also, friendship and enmity, fortune and sorrow, good and evil,
All the thoughts that run through your mind – everything is always changing.
(Taken from ‘Words of My Perfect Teacher’ by Patrul Rinpoche)
All compounded things are impermanent and if we
look closely, everything is compounded. So, everything is impermanent. This may
seem negative or depressing but actually it is a breath of fresh air. Let me
explain.
The definition of compounded is ‘something that
consists of two or more things combined together.’ As I have just stated, all
phenomena are compounded, and that includes you and me. Just think for a
moment, is there anything in this universe that isn’t compounded? As of yet we
haven’t found anything.
The point Buddha was making here is that anything
that is made up of a combination of other things will eventually fall apart. It
will come into being when the various causes and conditions are right, it will
exist for a certain amount of time, and then it will disintegrate – this is the
nature of all things, this is impermanence. It is an undeniable and inescapable
fact of life.
Impermanence isn’t a word we readily warm to, and
it would be much nicer for us to believe that everything is permanent. But this
simply isn’t true, and in order to stop our suffering, we need to acknowledge
this fact. The reason we do not like to hear about impermanence is because it
brings up visions of sickness, pain, disintegration and death. We get a
horrible sick feeling in our stomachs because we equate impermanence with loss
– loss of a loved one, loss of our friends or even loss of something as trivial
as our iPhone. So, it is vitally important for all of us to understand
impermanence.
Why is it important? What are the benefits of understanding it? It means we
will achieve freedom from fear, freedom from suffering and freedom from panic,
because when we know things are not going to last, we are free from any fear,
agony or pain of losing something or someone.
Our mistaken belief is that things come into
existence on their own, and last forever. This kind of mistaken belief causes
us to cling to worldly possessions, such as material objects, the search for
pleasure, recognition, honour and so on. It causes pride, attachment, aversion
and arrogance to grow within us because we truly believe things are here to
stay. We grow completely attached to the concerns of this life.
So, it’s a relief when we finally understand that
everything is impermanent, and we can’t do a thing to change that fact. We can
now let go and relax our grip on things – that’s a real breath of fresh air!
Impermanence is not only true for pleasurable things,
but for painful things as well. Maybe someone you care for has died or left
you, and you are sad and lonely. These emotions are also impermanent and so
will, after time, also change. All the things we have aversion towards will
only last a short time. Like the morning dew, it will all soon change and
disappear.
Like the dew that remains
for a moment or two
On the tips of the grass and then melts with the dawn.
The pleasures we find in the course of our lives
last only an instant, they cannot endure.
(Taken from ‘Thirty-Seven Practices of All Buddha’s Sons’ by Thogme Zangpo)
So, the first noble truth stated that there is suffering flowing through our lives, and the second truth explains some of the causes. In the third truth Buddha explains that there is freedom from suffering.
This truth is called by
various names, such as nirvana, liberation, enlightenment and so on. It is
hotly debated these days. Some think that if you reach nirvana you will never
be born again, others think you will be reborn, but you can pick where. For
people who do not believe in rebirth, they see it as something we can achieve
in this lifetime. I have no idea who is right and who is wrong – it maybe they
are all wrong.
People think that nirvana is
like heaven, full of happiness, the opposite of this world. They image that
there, the sun shines brightly every day, only ‘good’ people are around, one
doesn’t have to work, there are no money worries, everybody is friendly, and
every moment is filled with happiness.
However, this is just a
projection of our dualistic minds, trying to fill heaven with all the things we
like best. But what about all the things other people like and we don’t? I
would want a heaven where no one eats meat, while others would want one where
they could eat a big fat juicy steak every day. Do we each get a heaven of our
own? I believe if people really gave some thought to their concept of heaven,
they would understand they were just changing one conditioned world for
another. That way, heaven, like this world, would be equally impermanent.
I am just going to give my
own thoughts here and you can decide for yourselves what you believe. I will
show you that there are two good bits of news in this third noble truth.
I feel that the best word to describe this third truth is awakening. We awaken from the sleep of unawareness. I do not see the process of awakening as some mystical or metaphysical thing.
Buddha said that awakening is the ‘highest happiness’, but he wasn’t talking about the mundane happiness we strive for in our everyday lives. He was talking about absolute freedom from unskillfulness, freedom from craving, attachment, desire, hatred and unawareness. All of this we can achieve in this lifetime by truly understanding the four noble truths and following the eightfold path. Once we start meditating on these teachings and turning them from knowledge to wisdom, we will start to change our actions of body, speech and mind.
This state of being awake can
be reached by anyone, whether they call themselves Buddhist or not, in this
very lifetime – you just have to put the effort and hard work in. That’s the
first bit of good news.
The second bit of good news
is we do not have to die to become awakened. It can be obtained during this
lifetime. Death is irrelevant to this process. People feel like this life is
full of discontentment and causes them nothing but suffering, and the only way
out is death. They feel at death they will be miraculously transported to a
better place. But the third truth is not talking about a place; it is the
cessation of the three poisons, namely, desire, anger and aversion and
unawareness. The Buddha defined it as ‘perfect peace’, or a state of mind that
is free from craving, anger and other afflictive states. We can find this
perfect peace in this body, on this planet and in this lifetime.
I honestly believe the third
truth isn’t talking about a metaphysical thing, it isn’t a place to go to and
we do not have to die to realise it. We just need to put in a huge amount of
effort so we can extinguish our afflictive states of mind.
I will leave you to reflect on this third truth, so you can decide which version makes the most sense to you.
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This is a guest blog post from Stan B. Martin and is taken from his latest book entitled ‘Illusions on the Path.’
It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live – Marcus Aurelius
Our inability to face the fundamental truth of our existence, the fact of our physical mortality, was identified by the Buddha as one of the greatest causes of unnecessary suffering in our lives. Of course, we all understand to some degree, at least intellectually, the fact that we will die. But this thought is something that we may wish to sweep under the carpet for fear it might hamper or depress our plans, our dreams, our aspirations, and above all our pleasures. This fear is so ingrained in us that talk of death is frowned upon by many as a taboo subject. To turn the conversation in the direction of our mortality is deemed morbid and ill-mannered. It is certainly not to be found on a list of appropriate topics of conversation to be had at adinner party in the company of polite society.
In light of this
cultural bias, it is then interesting, that the Buddha recommended not only
that the thought of our death should be cultivated and meditated upon, but that
it should become one of the main motivating forces in our lives. It is not that
we are dim witted and can’t accept our own mortality. That’s not the problem.
The problem is a habitual and harmful belief that deceives us. It’s the idea
that death will most certainly not come to us today. This has become our modus
operandi. This tacit and unconscious belief plays out in our lives and paints a
panorama of future plans and dreams ahead of us. It afflicts us with a sense of
complacency and lethargy. We act as if we will be here forever.
It’s as if we are wearing
blinkers that obscure this indisputable truth and allows us to mindlessly enjoy
the pleasures life has to offer. Of course, the idea that we will all live long
healthy lives is good for business. It’s so easy to assume that we will reach
the average lifespan of eighty years or so. When we are young we all
think we are immortal, it’s only old people who die. It may seem clever to
hedge our bets in this way, then we can just put death out of our minds. When I
lived in London and was meditating on the uncertainty of the time of death, I
used to walk around cemeteries to read the headstones and contemplate this
idea. Seeing flowers next to a small grave of an infant was heart wrenching. Likewise,
descriptions of young men or women dying leaving behind their grieving parents.
No age group is immune from the possibility of death. As we get older and start
to lose friends and family this becomes clearer. But what does not seem to
weaken amongst most of us is the enduring belief that it won’t happen to us,
certainly not today. Millions cling onto this belief right up to the moment of
their death. Perhaps this is a reflection of some evolutionary instinct,
to ignore the most basic fact of life.
To fully accept and face
the reality that at any moment our worldly activities and dreams can come to a
final end is of course not good news that is easily digested. But the moment we
are born, it is the only certainty that we can lay claim to. The experience we
call life will one day come to an abrupt halt. We will lose everything and
everyone we hold dear. The more you meditate on this reality you don’t discover
some silver lining within this horrific realisation. We don’t find some
consoling belief that perhaps we really will live forever, we can escape death.
It’s more that through accepting this truth, by familiarising ourselves with
it, by getting used to it, we gain a new perspective on our life. We don’t
necessarily become morose, start wearing black clothes and telling everyone
around us about our existential angst. Instead we slowly realise that the time
we have left to live is precious. Like any commodity in the world that is not
only scarce but is also decreasing moment by moment, the time we have left is
extremely valuable. Every moment counts.
To practice living everyday
as if it could be our last, widens our perspective and shifts our priorities.
It’s not that we should stop planning for the future and instead go on a
bender, but rather we become less attached to the plans we make. We become
quick to forgive ourselves and those around us for the mistakes we all make. If
these could be our last moments together, why argue over trivialities? Why not
make this time we have together the best we can? Why don’t we try to be the
best people we can, in the time we have left? I often think that people who are
given news from their doctors that they have only months or weeks to live are
so fortunate to receive this news. They at least have time to set their lives
in order and avoid the shock, fear and regret that often comes with the sudden
onset of death. Instead of waiting too late to act and put our own lives in
order, why not start today? A life guided by the consciousness of death
naturally leads to choices being made that enhance the time we have left and
eliminates regret from our life. We can make the best of the precarious
situation we find ourselves in. A life lived without regret is a life
fully lived.
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We seek security and
comfort not only by conveniently ignoring our mortal nature but also by
projecting permanence on the objects we attach ourselves to in the world of our
everyday experience. The world we wake up to every morning takes on the
appearance of being solid and familiar. It seems like it is the same sun that
rises every morning and illuminates the familiar horizon and landscape that we
inhabit. The people in our lives appear the same as those we said goodnight to
the day before. We find satisfaction picking up our favourite mug and making
our morning brew. Repeating our daily rituals gives consistency and shape to
our lives that feels both intimate and comforting. This sense of solidity makes
us feel safe.
The Buddha’s insight
into the impermanent nature of the world we live in, a view that counters the
solid appearance it often takes, is confirmed by modern science. We learn at
school that the appearance of solidity in even seemingly dense objects like
rocks is illusory. If we zoom into these objects, we discover a universe of
atoms and electrons whizzing around space in a state of flux. Every object we
perceive is not simply vulnerable to change but is in fact constantly
undergoing change, moment by moment. Change is one of the only fixed attributes
of the world we live in. Everything that comes together through various causes
and conditions gradually wears down and breaks up.
Even the Himalayas, the
world’s greatest mountain range, is subject to constant instability. If it is
not the rumblings and earthquakes brought on by the advance of the Indian
continental plate below, it is the constant climatic pressures of rain, snow,
heat and cold that push down on the mountains from above. If the mighty
Himalayas are susceptible to such forces of change, how much more so are the
lives of comparably insignificant individuals like us? If change is such an
essential quality of our life, it then begs the question, why are we often so
resistant to it? What are those things or people in our lives that we are so
invested in that the thought of change sends shivers of fear down our spines?
How much of our time and effort is spent attempting to hold back the inevitable
force of change running like an undercurrent throughout our lives?
If I wake up one
summer’s day and am not greeted by a sunrise but instead by the sound of
thunder emanating from dark forbidding skies I might feel unnerved. If I then
turn towards my partner and find her missing and in her place I see a note
recounting her decision to leave me for good to live with her secret lover of
many years, I might start to feel shock. Despite this, the force of habit may
take me to the kitchen where as I reach out for my coffee mug I notice my hands
shaking. The next moment my trusty mug is on the floor in pieces. This is the
last straw; my life is in tatters.
Change is inevitable, it
might not always play out in such dramatic or tragic ways, but small
disappointments and frustrations crop up and afflict us throughout our lives.
My new car breaks down. I drop my cherished smartphone and crack the screen. My
girlfriend stops loving me. My hair starts turning grey. OMG! We slowly wake up
from the old Hollywood fantasy that we can live “happily ever after”. The
Buddha’s bleak message of “old age, sickness, and death” may paint a more
realistic story but probably wouldn’t sell out in movie theatres. Hollywood
might counter this with “facelifts, health care, and cryonics”. Any takers out
there?
We may have abandoned
the comfort blankets and teddy bears from our infancy only to replace them with
more adult surrogates later in our lives. We all share the instinct to crave
safety and security in our lives. We want something to cling onto that we can
trust and rely on. This instinct proliferates a full range of unskilful
behaviours including anxiety in its many forms, fears, jealousy,
possessiveness, manipulative and controlling behaviours, anger and violence to
name a few. Despite our strategies to find comfort and security in external
objects the Buddha pointed out the futility in such endeavours. Our life is
inherently insecure. To become comfortable or familiar with this truth takes
much thought and meditation, but it results in dispelling many of the unskilful
and disturbing responses that afflict our minds. To take refuge in and
familiarise ourselves with the impermanent nature of ourselves and the world we
live in frees us from our attachments and brings us into more sane and
compassionate relationships with those around us.
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